Gift Theme Origins for Wedding Anniversaries
Weddings are a key event in any couple's life, as they bring together friends and relatives to celebrate the happiness and joy of the couple. Wedding anniversaries are also perfect opportunities to celebrate the love of two people, commemorating the joy that they take in each other's company, despite the trials and tribulations of the marital journey.
In most cultures, the wedding anniversary is thought to be an important occasion, and it is generally celebrated in meaningful and significant ways. Couples are reminded of their marital commitment, and a lot of effort often goes into sourcing the perfect gift that will be symbolic and meaningful for one's partner, or the happy couple.
OUR MOST POPULAR ANNIVERSARY GIFT
While finding a gift for couples in the first years of their marriage is relatively simple (as they still require many of the essentials of marital life), later in their marriage, thinking of an appropriate gift idea that will be appreciated and treasured is more difficult.
Gift-giving on the occasion of a wedding anniversary has its origins in the medieval period. In the Holy Roman Empire, husbands would give their wife a silver garland to mark their 25th anniversary, and a golden wreath when they reached 50 years of marriage.
In the 1920s, Emily Post, an American writer, attempted to solve the issue of what gift to give on the occasion of an anniversary by drawing up lists of anniversary themes in a book titled “Etiquette”, published in 1922. However, only some anniversary years were included in the book, the first, fifth, then every fifth year up to the 25th wedding anniversary. In 1937, the American National Retail Jeweler Association added additional years to the list, including all years up to 14 years of marriage, and every 5th year up to 50 years of marriage. These are known as traditional themes linked with each marital year. More recently, a contemporary list was created, and today, all the anniversary years from 1 up to 30 have been linked with a theme or material, and then every fifth year up to 75 years of marriage.
Other Themes for Anniversary Gifts – Gemstones, Colours and Flowers
Not only are anniversary years symbolised by traditional and contemporary gifts, but they often also have a flower, colour and gemstone associated with them as well. The gemstones associated with marital years 1 to 25, and then every 5th year up to the 60th anniversary, are published in the Information Manual on Gemstones by the American Gem Trade Association. In some instances, other countries have suggested a different gemstone for certain anniversary years, so those alternate gemstones are outlined in our table.
Different marital years also often have colours and flowers associated with them, however, these vary dependent on the source. Usually, however, the rose is considered to be the perfect substitute for any anniversary if a woman adores roses, and often its shade can be matched with the colour linked to the anniversary year.
We have compiled a table here that details all the traditional and contemporary themes associated with each anniversary year. There is also further information below the table to help guide you when thinking about an appropriate anniversary gift for your loved one, or for a couple.
Wedding Anniversary Occasion |
Traditional Theme |
Modern Theme |
Colour |
Gemstone |
Anniversary Gift Suggestions |
||
1st Year |
Paper
|
Clocks |
Gold; Yellow |
Gold Jewellery (no stone specified) Alternate Stone: Peridot; Pearl |
|||
2nd Year |
Cotton
|
China
|
Red |
Garnet Alternate Stone: Rose Quartz |
|||
3rd Year |
Leather
|
Crystal/Glass |
Jade; White |
Pearl Alternate Stone: Moonstone; Crystal; Jade |
|||
4th Year |
Linen; Silk (UK) Fruit/Flowers (US)
|
Appliances (electrical) |
Blue; Green |
Blue Topaz Alternate Stone: Blue Zircon; Amethyst |
|||
5th Year |
Wood |
Silverware |
Blue; Pink; Turquoise
|
Sapphire Alternate Stone: Pink Tourmaline; Rose Quartz; Turquoise |
|||
6th Year |
Candy (UK) Iron (US)
|
Wood |
Purple; White; Turquoise |
Amethyst Alternate Stone: Garnet; Turquoise |
|||
7th Year |
Wool (UK) Copper (US)
|
Brass; Desk Sets
|
Yellow; Off-White |
Onyx Alternate Stone: Yellow Sapphire; Copper; Lapis Lazuli |
|||
8th Year |
Salt (UK) Bronze; Pottery (US)
|
Linen; Lace
|
Bronze |
Tourmaline Alternate Stone: Tanzanite; Bronze; Aventurine |
|||
9th Year |
Copper (UK) Willow; Pottery (US)
|
Leather
|
Terracotta |
Lapis Lazuli Alternate Stone: Tiger Eye; Andalusite |
|||
10th Year |
Tin (US & UK) Aluminum (US);
|
Diamond Jewellery
|
Silver; Blue |
Diamond Alternate Stone: Crystal; Onyx; Green Tourmaline |
|||
11th Year |
Steel
|
Fashion Jewellery; Accessories |
Turquoise |
Turquoise Alternate Stone: Hematite |
|||
12th Year |
Linen; Silk (UK) Home Décor (US)
|
Pearls
|
Oyster-White |
Jade Alternate Stone: Agate; Pearl; Garnet; Tsavorite |
|||
13th Year
|
Lace
|
Textiles; Furs
|
White |
Citrine Alternate Stone: Moonstone; Malachite; Opal |
|||
14th Year |
Ivory or Elephant ***
|
Gold Jewellery
|
Ivory |
Opal Alternate Stone: Ivory; Gold; Kunzite; Moss Agate |
|||
15th Year |
Crystal
|
Watches
|
Red |
Ruby Alternate Stone: Rhodolite; Blue Sapphire |
|||
16th Year |
Silverware
|
Silver |
Peridot Alternate Stone: Aquamarine; Golden Topaz |
||||
17th Year |
Furniture
|
Yellow Alternate Stone: Amethyst; Citrine; Pink Tourmaline; Watch |
Carnelian |
||||
18th Year |
Porcelain
|
Blue |
Cat’s Eye Alternate Stone: Opal; Aquamarine |
||||
19th Year |
Bronze
|
Bronze |
Aquamarine Alternate Stone: Topaz; Golden Beryl |
||||
20th Year |
China
|
Platinum
|
Emerald Alternate Stone: Platinum |
Emerald-Green; White
|
|||
21st Year |
Brass; Nickel |
Orange |
Iolite |
||||
22nd Year |
Copper |
Green |
Spinel |
||||
23rd Year |
Silver Plate |
Silver |
Imperial Topaz Alternate Stone: Sapphire |
||||
24th Year |
Opal (US)
|
Musical Instruments |
Lavender |
Tanzanite |
|||
25th Year |
Silver |
Silver |
Silver Jewellery (no specific stone) |
||||
26th Year |
Pictures |
NA |
NA |
||||
27th Year |
Sculptures |
NA |
NA |
||||
28th Year |
Orchids |
Lavender |
Alternate Stone: Amethyst; Orchid Tourmaline |
||||
29th Year |
Furniture |
NA |
NA |
||||
30th Year |
Pearl
|
Diamond |
Green |
Pearl Alternate Stone: Diamond; Jade |
|||
35th Year |
Coral (US & UK); Jade (US) |
Jade
|
Coral |
Emerald Alternate Stone: Coral; Jade |
|||
40th Year |
Ruby |
Red |
Ruby |
||||
45th Year |
Sapphire |
Blue |
Sapphire Alternate Stone: Alexandrite |
||||
50th Year |
Gold
|
Gold |
Gold (no specific stone) Alternate Stone: Gold or Imperial Topaz |
||||
55th Year |
Emerald
|
Emerald-Green |
Alexandrite Alternate Stone: Emerald |
||||
60th Year |
Diamond |
Diamond-White |
Diamond |
*** Although ivory is the traditional material for a 14th wedding anniversary, it is a poor choice ethically due to the decline of elephant populations. Instead, gifts that feature an elephant theme are an appropriate alternative.
Choosing a Gift
When you look at our table, you can see a complete guide to each anniversary year, outlining all traditional and modern themes, as well as the gemstones, colours and floral* symbols for each year. Further detail can be discovered by clicking the link located in the last column of each year. You can find information here relating to each anniversary year right up to 30 years of marriage, and then each 5th year up to the 60th year of marriage. You can also read on the background of the symbols linked to every theme, together with any additional aspects relating to the anniversary, and useful gift suggestions for each milestone. You will find lots of exciting ideas to browse through, which makes finding the perfect anniversary present a breeze.
* The floral symbol is explained in more detail when you click on the link in the last column of each anniversary year.
There are no definitive rules to choosing an anniversary present, so be guided by the recipient's tastes and find a gift they are sure to cherish.
You will note that after 20 years, there aren't traditional gifts associated with every marital year, however, there is a modern theme for each year right up to 30 years of marriage. This reflects the need for a couple to continue to sustain romance and commitment as they progress through married life. Some years also have no floral symbol, gemstone or colour associated with them. We do, however, suggest useful gift ideas for every wedding anniversary year.
We also wish to point out that in some instances, different countries have different gift themes, and when you look at the table, you can see the source that has been used for the gift suggestions, whether it is from the UK or the United States.
Should you be looking for advice about romantic activities to enjoy on your anniversary, check out our list of 37 exciting suggestions.